What’s your parenting style? Are you a “My Way,” “Your Way,” or “Our Way” parent?
“My Way” parents tend to keep control. They are often the parents of young children. Depending on your cultural background you may favor “My Way” parenting for the better part of your child’s growing up.
“Your Way” parents give a great deal of decision-making power to their children. Often “Your Way” parents have older children, perhaps well into their teens. In some cultures children have more say in decisions that affect them than do children in others.
“Our Way” parents share decision-making with their children. Some “Our Way” parents begin sharing decision-making, allowing their children more and more say, more and more choices as they grow older and more mature. Certainly, “Our Way” parenting is quite common among parents of older teens and adults. Generally, certainly in North America, even adult children consult with parents about major decisions even though they have the legal right to decide totally for themselves.
Research has shown that your style of parenting, while important, is less important than whether you are consistent and predictable in your parenting. Do you say what you mean and mean what you say? Do you show children what to do, or do you tell them? To some degree the answer depends on the age of your children. Still, the style of parenting you favor is your choice. The important thing is to be congruent: you must be consistent, predictable, and take a “do-as-I-do” rather than a “do-as-I-say” approach. After all, you are the model for you child’s future parenting sytle and indeed for his/her conduct when an adult.
Wouldn’t you like to know your parenting style? Knowing the parenting style you favor and comparing it to the parenting style you actually use can be quite informative. The closer your prefered style and your actual style, the more congruent, predictable, and consistent you will be. When you are predictable, consistent, and congruent, your children feel safer. When children feel safe because their environment is predicatable, they can focus more on learning to be responsible, independent, adults than they do trying to figure out what is predictable.
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- Solve the Problem: A skill that empowers your children to work with you to solve problems and make decisions.
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What Kind of Parent Are YOU?
What is your parenting stylye?
Would you like to know? You can find out by completing the form below and subscribing to my FREE Discovering Your Parenting Style questionnaire. Whether you are a “My Way,” “Your Way,” or “Our Way” parent often depends on the age and maturity level of your children. By completing this FREE questionnaire you will discover your preferred parenting style. You will also learn which parenting style you acutally use. We know that congruent and consistent, loving parents create the safest environments in which their children can learn and grow.
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